In the beginning, god created mess.
No, seriously… You bought the stuff, your mess. Take responsibility for it. Even if you didn’t make the mess, your partner, kids, pets, or even neighbors made a mess in your space.
You are the adult who sets things in motion. You let others know what is ok in the house and what is not.
This is the physical representation of learning to say no. What happens on the outside is a physical representation of what’s happening on the inside.
Let’s say you have a dog that makes a mess all the time. You have the obligation to tell the dog it’s not ok. Show them the mess while you grab it from the neck, point to the mess and say “No!”. Repeat it twice more and then let the pooch go. If you don’t, you’re saying you’re ok with it.
When it comes to neighbors and kids. They should also know what is not ok. I remember growing up in a four bedroom house, and one of the rooms was designated for toys and making huge messes, but the minute crap made its way to my parents’ room, suddenly it was not ok with my mom. We knew it, so we rarely left toys in my parents’ bedroom.
And so it is with everything else.